The Poe Family
If you’ve listened to the radio in Tennessee over the past 27 years, you’ve probably heard Courtney Poe’s voice. He’s DJ Cwiz and he’s toured the world with hip hop’s biggest names (including Oscar-Winning Three 6 Mafia and UGK).
But Courtney says that his most important role is being a father.
Last year he, joined a couple hundred other runners for the Fatherhood Games 5K. He runs half marathons regularly, but this particular event was different. Because it was a race to celebrate him and all dads.
“I did [the race] because I wanted to celebrate that I have one for the dads. I run all the time, but this one was personal,” said Courtney.
He explained that he’s been on both sides of fatherhood. Initially, he was just trying to make things work as a co-parent. Continue reading
Today, I’m sharing via video because I want to share a story with you. A few years ago, I had almost given up hope on black marriages. I witnessed two family members go through tragic divorces and I had a question:
Can black families live happily ever after?
The Lord answered that question in an awesome way! Check out the video to hear that story. Continue reading
Have you ever noticed how people in the same family often repeat the same mistake?
For example, if a child is born to an unwed mother…the child may go on to repeat the same mistakes. Well, I witnessed that happen in my own family and it made me sooooo angry…because I could have stopped it!
But it turns out that it’s not just my family that’s prone to repeat each others mistakes. It happened with one of the most famous Biblical families in history too: Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. The same mistake–willful deception–was repeated over 3 generations. Continue reading
Over the past few days, I’ve found myself defending my introvert husband from my family when he doesn’t show up to one of the millions of family gatherings, basketball games, or social commitments that are thrust upon us. Continue reading
All Sorts of -Ships
I was listening to a sermon by Dr. Joseph Warren Walker III several years ago and he talked about building ships. Ships are our relationships, courtships, and friendships. And as we stand at the beginning of 2015, I’d like to ask that you set goals for your ships.
I did this for the first time in 2013, and one of my goals was to write two letters a week. As a result, it healed a broken relationship with my younger brother. He says that the letters were encouraging to him because sometimes he doubted if anyone ever thought of him.
The experience was eye opening for me, because I thought about my brother twice a week… but he never knew it. It turns out; Continue reading
Imagine you and your spouse are whisked away for an all-expense paid 3-day vacation at an exclusive resort. While hanging out on a crisp Saturday morning, your spouse turns to you and says “Look at that hummingbird, have you ever seen one like that before?” You nod (without looking up), say “uh huh” and return to sorting through your Facebook posts.
Your spouse mentioning that hummingbird is an example of an emotional bid for acceptance. An emotional bid is a request for attention, affection, or support and your response to that request generates a critical outcome. Here’s a quick video that explains “emotional bids” . Continue reading
Earlier this I read, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen R. Covey. And, several times while reading I found myself thinking “the world would be a better place if all families aspired toward this.”
One principle, Dr. Covey explains is the Circle of Influence and the Circle of Concern.
The Circle of Concern is a large circle that embraces everything in your life that you may be concerned about. The Circle of Influence is a smaller circle within the Circle of Concern that embraces the things you can actually do something about. Continue reading