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I have a confession to make. I fell short on my commitment to you this week, and I didn’t interview any christian, black, men. I know. I know. It is the third week of the Guide to a Black Man’s Heart series and my goal was to interview at least two people. But I didn’t, and I have no excuses. Please forgive me.

The good news is that my friend, KR, sent me an interesting video that I want to share and discuss with you, and it is a tough topic – submission. Candace Cameron Bure, D.J. from Full House, has a new book entitled Balancing It All. I haven’t read the book yet, but there seems to be some controversy over her discussion of submission.

Submission

Submission seems like such a dirty word. It just makes me think weak and sniveling! I mean it is 2014, aren’t we supposed to be strong, assertive, running things, and Leaning In? But, alas, Ephesians 5 spills A LOT of ink on the this very topic. It says things like:

  • Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord
  • Wives, should submit to their husbands in everything
  • The husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church
In my head, I’m thinking: Lord, would you puleeeze gimme a break? And, He does. Because Ephesians continues that:
  • Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church
  • Husbands, ought to love their wives as their own bodies
  • He who loves his wife, loves himself

(continue self-talk) Yes, Lord! That’s more like it. You tell ’em. It is comforting for me to know that our part is to submit, but our husbands have to love us wildly and unconditionally. Afterall, that’s what Jesus does.D.J. Candace Cameron Bure gives a sublime definition of submission. Please take three minutes and watch the video of her discussing submission with the Huffington Post.

So what do you think about this whole submission thing? Is it necessary to make a marriage successful?