Steve Urkel loved Laura Winslow. But, Steve was a complete dork, dressed like a nerd, and was accident prone. And, Laura could not see past Steve’s exterior…to see his good qualities.

If you were Laura Winslow, would you have been able to look past Steve Urkel’s less than picture perfect exterior? Or do you have to be attracted to a man at first glance? And, is there a particular type of man you have sketched out in your mind’s eye?

Are you overlooking the man of your dreams? 

It is possible that the man of your dreams is right under your nose, but you are overlooking him because of preconceived notions.

Over the next six weeks, I’ll be discussing what it takes to build a strong relationship. I’ve been interviewing Christian, black, men to learn their perspectives on relationships. One of the guys mentioned that we live in an Instagram world. He feels like women only want to date men that look a certain way, have a certain job, or drive a certain car. Because women want to look good on Facebook and Instagram. And, that struck me…is that true, are we really that shallow?

Steve Urkel Can Teach Us Some Things…

I’m not sure. But, it got me to thinking about Laura and Steve. If you have a Steve in you life that you are not giving the time of day. Wake up! You might just have Prince Charming under your nose.

Steve Urkel teaches us:

  • Not to judge a book by its cover in relationships.
  • A man can change himself, but we can’t change him. (Nor should we try.)
  • Don’t let disappointments make you bitter.

Disappointments shouldn’t make us bitter…

Steve was loyal. He professed his undying love and affection for Laura for four straight seasons, without any hope that his love would ever be reciprocated. But in season five, he morphed into Stefan Urquell. Steve changed himself, because he loved Laura. And he was willing to change in order to win her heart. But, the most important lesson we can learn from Steve is not to allow disappointments to make us bitter. Even when he became Stefan Urquell, he still was completely and totally in love with Laura.

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So, when you head out into the world today…be open to the possibilities. Don’t let past disappointments deter you. Remember, love comes in all shapes and sizes, and for heaven’s sake, don’t try to change him.