Last month, Morris and I celebrated our four year anniversary. When I walked down the aisle toward him four years ago, I was a little scared.
Scared that our love was a phase, it would fade away, and soon we’d settle into a life of mediocrity. But Mom Boyd, Morris’ Mom, told me something that stuck with me:
“What you have now is nothing compared to what you’ll have later.”
I wasn’t quite sure what she meant. But now that we are four years down the road, I FINALLY get it…
Love Grows with Time
What she was saying, is that your love will grow deeper with time. Sure, we were in love then. But what we have now is:
- And the history and experiences of time that knit two hearts together
He’s my best friend, and I can’t imagine what living one day longer than him would feel like.
Back then, I was also worried about being unequally yoked. All those questions have been answered on so many levels.
Every day before Morris leaves the house, he wraps his arms around me and says a prayer that the Lord will keep us safe and that I’ll have a productive writing day. I’m excited to see what the Lord does as we continue to grow in Him and toward each other.
Leverage Each Other’s Strengths
Over the past few years, we’ve traveled half way around the world together…
And we’ve learned some things about each other’s strengths…
Morris has spidey senses when it comes to navigating a transit system in any language, and I have a pretty solid sense of direction above ground. He is the visionary, and I am the planner and implementer. He comes up with the grandiose dream and I figure out the 67 steps it’ll take to get us there—this role is not to be confused with that of a Debbie Downer.
(By the way, we’re getting ready to launch a new project on building local communities. So you’ll be hearing directly from the boss of the Boyd household soon!)
Trouble Will Come, Learn to Manage
We’ve also learned to navigate the highs and lows of life as they come. Like, when we missed our flight to Miami last month….
When we first got married, we’d get testy with each other. (We still do on occasion.) But we’ve learned to channel that frustration in helpful ways. Like:
- Dragging each other to the gym
- Creating To-Do Lists to Move Forward
- Learning How to Comfort Each Other
- And, most importantly, buying each other our favorite foods. Me: Cupcakes. Him: Fancy Cheese and Crackers.
Have Fun. Every. Single. Day
The business of life can suck the fun out of your soul. So we dance, sing, and laugh a lot to combat that.
Whether it’s in the kitchen or in the grocery store…find a way to steal a little fun out of life’s mundane moments. It’s a lesson we learned from an afternoon with our marriage mentors. They’ve been married 50 plus years and laugh every other minute…even if there’s nothing funny to laugh about.
So we’ve taken that lesson from their playbook, and I hope you will too. Sometimes it can take a four year time span for a life lessons to sink in. But, hopefully, I’m not the only one that’s a little slow on the uptake.
Question: What lessons have you learned over a period of time, that took a while for your to process?