Have you ever wondered what it really means to be unequally yoked?
It’s a term that’s thrown around a lot in Christian circles and it’s based on a passage of Scripture in 2 Corinthians 6:14. It says “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? ”
Now, that term “yoked” is actually an agricultural term that describes two oxen pulling a burden. But when the oxen aren’t evenly matched…an interesting thing happens.
Gotquestions.org explains it this way:
A yoke is a wooden bar that joins two oxen to each other and to the burden they pull. An “unequally yoked” team has one stronger ox and one weaker, or one taller and one shorter. The weaker or shorter ox would walk more slowly than the taller, stronger one, causing the load to go around in circles. When oxen are unequally yoked, they cannot perform the task set before them. Instead of working together, they are at odds with one another.
The Same is True In Relationships
If we are unequally yoked, when the troubles of life come…we’ll be working against each other.
Take me for example, I like to be running things. Because if I’m in charge, I can eliminate uncertainty. But the need to be in control is a death sentence for a relationship, and the Lord is helping me overcome my control issues. He says things like:
- Let Morris take care of the finances.
- Don’t you say that to your husband!
- Have a seat, Simone, and let Me handle this.
It scares me to think how my need for control could have destroyed our relationship.
But, when I’m in the wrong the Lord speaks to me. And when Morris is in the wrong He speaks to him. And we rely on each other to be obedient to the will of God.
The Danger of Being Unequally Yoked
As Christians, the danger with being unequally yoked is that we make it easier for the devil to rip our relationships apart. Because when the hard times come (and they will!), we will be at each other’s throats…rather than laying it on the Cross.
I think it’s important to remember, that the Thief is working day and night. The Good Book says in John 10:10 that “The Thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but I came that you might have life and it more abundantly.”
It’s easier to walk in that abundant life with someone that’s on the same page when it comes to faith.
By the way, dating someone to bring them to Christ doesn’t really work either. As Joe says in his video “we are not called to be missionaries on the dating field.”
So, what are your thoughts on being unequally yoked?
If you are like me, you’ve tried it and have the war wounds to match.
Next time, I’ll be sharing how my misunderstanding of this passage almost derailed me and Morris’ relationship. Because I was a spirit-filled non-denominational and he is a Bible-toting Baptist. Be back in two weeks. Love, Simone